My classmates have always been asking me for advices for their love problems. Sometimes I do not know how to answer their questions because I myself have not experienced such things. Hearing such hurtful events such as break ups from my friends eventually led me to conclude that having a boyfriend is such a head ache and I even promised myself not to have one- not until I graduate from high school, of course.
Fortunately, I do not have a boyfriend and I never really had. I had some crushes and things that you call flings but those were not really serious. I have just been open to things like that but no one ever courted me. Maybe they were just afraid or maybe they are just torpe. But whatever the reason is, I thank them because at least I did not break my promise which is not to have a boyfriend in high school.
When I ask my friends about the feeling of having a relationship with someone, they usually say "It's a nice feeling..". Well yeah, it may be NICE at FIRST but love is not always nice. It will eventually led you to heart aches. I do not want to be hurt that is because being hurt is the last thing a person would like to feel, right? I do not like to be hurt also because I do not know how to deal with it and I am afraid I might not control my emotions and I might do something I do not usually do.
Most of my friends have already their boyfriends and girlfriends. But even though, I do not really get jealous. Maybe because I do not want to be hurt or simply because I am not ready for a relationship. Having a relationship requires a lot of patience and understanding. It also demands a lot from both parties who are in the relationship. It is not enough to have a relationship. It is also good to have a steady and serious relationship but that requires a lot of TRUST and more patience and understanding. I know all these things because it is from what I have observed from my classmates and deep inside me, I know that I am still not ready for that.
I really do not have a lot of standards in choosing the person I would like to love eventually. I just want him to be simple, down to earth, honest, gentleman and respectful to my parents as much as possible. I also want him to love me as who I am and accept me as the real me. I don't want pretensions. I just want him to be his real self and to show his real self. I don't want him to be boastful, I just want him to be humble with what he has and share what he knows. Respecting my parents is an important thing for me. Certainly because, it is when I will know if he also truly respects me. If he respects my parents then no doubt respecting me will not really be a difficult task at all.
I also disagree with regards to hiding one's relationship. Why will you hide you relationship? Are you afraid that people will know the real thing between you and your special someone? For me, it is really a no, no to hide a relationship. It is because I guess you should tell your parents and the people around you how proud you are and how happy you are with the person you love. You should not hide your relationship just for the sake of not being scolded and being separated by your parents. I think when your parents will know that you have a relationship, they will really accept it and support you for it. If they do not agree with you, then I guess you just have to separate first and find out later if you really are meant to be. True love waits, right? And so I guess it's the time to prove it yourself if it really works. Even though it hurts, you must accept it. It's not for your parents' good but for your good. It is a way to show how they truly love you.
Now, I am willing to wait 'til that right person comes along. Even though it may not come really soon, but definitely I know he's somewhere out there waiting, like me. And I am willing to wait even if it takes forever.
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